How To Deal With Triggers

Virtual Mini-Workshop for Couples, On Your Time, From Your Couch

It’s a fact of any marriage or relationship: You’re going to get triggered! Your partner is going to do or say stuff that drives you nuts or makes you feel hurt, angry, or sad. You are going to misunderstand each other, have conflicts, disagreements and problems to sort through. When you struggle in relationship, triggers are involved!

How have you tried to deal with your triggered responses in relationship? What do you do to make the irritating or hurtful behavior go away?  Perhaps you ...

  • Tell your partner to stop or change?
  • Explain what your partner did wrong?
  • Blame, complain or criticize?
  • Stuff your feelings or stop talking?
  • Get experts to weigh in and validate your experience?
  • Spend hours trying to figure out who said what and why?

Whatever tactic you employ when you're triggered often reinforces your trigger, which keeps you feeling stuck and hopeless.

It's exasperating trying to figure out why you're triggered. When it gets bad, all you see are each other’s irritating behaviors. But surprisingly, we've found that what you think you’re upset about is not what you’re really upset about.

A foundational part of the LoveWorks Solution is our model for how to deal with triggers. With what we teach, you can precisely pinpoint what you’re upset about (it’s not what you think), talk about it with each other, and change it.

"No one ever triggers you. They reveal a trigger you already have. " Sonika Tinker

In this brand new mini-workshop, you’ll learn our signature process for dealing with triggers, and you’ll get to practice with your partner on the spot. All in just 90 minutes.

How To Deal With Triggers in Relationship.

In this mini-workshop, you will learn:

  • Identify your triggers.
  • Realize what you’re really upset about.
  • Change what you’re upset about.
  • Talk to each other when triggered in a way that fosters understanding and connection.
  • Use our proven process to deal with triggers (this is a true tool for life).
  • Help yourself and each other when you feel angry or hurt.

We’ve helped thousands of couples create fulfilling, empowering, intimate relationships.
We are looking forward to doing the same for you. 

Cost: $40.00
Anytime you like
Your couch, kitchen table, or bedroom

How it works: Once you register, you'll be sent to the video page. You get comfortable with your partner, hit play, watch the video and do the exercises we guide you through. The video runs about 85 minutes, which includes time to do the exercises.


Only $40 per couple

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About Your Facilitators

Sonika Tinker, MSW, and Christian Pedersen, loving husband-wife team, are Relationship Experts with over 40 years combined experience coaching couples. They are the founders of The LoveWorks Solution, a practical, happy approach to marriage, relationship, intimacy and communication. They are experts at creating a safe space for couples.

Sonika is a Certified NLP Professional, Certified Enneagram Teacher, Certified Mediator and Co-author of Seize Your Opportunities and The Good Divorce. Christian is a Certified Life Coach, Certified Mediator, Mankind Project co-leader in training and author of When You Love Your Woman.